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Tough childhood?

Tough childhood? Here's one story....

Here’s one story about how we help families facing ACES situations – Adverse Childhood Experiences.

The key component is to build resiliency in the children and their families. Resiliency is very simply the ability of at least two individuals to wrap around someone with ACES with help, love, and consistency and help them solve a problem.

 One of our clients was about to be evicted from her HUD housing (with her three children) due to uncleanliness (cockroach infested). On a Saturday - three volunteers from The Crossing went and cleaned her apartment and committed for the next six months to walk alongside of her and teach her step-by-step how to clean her home, love her, hold her accountable, bring in as many outside agencies to support her (including CPS when it was warranted) and continue to stay alongside of her.

 It has been about a year and a half, she maintains her house and her children are still with her and not in foster care. This is the kind of ACES investment we feel is important. This is resiliency. We realize this is an extreme case and long term investment -- as it took this young mom 7 months to realize she "liked" her home clean.

The Crossing, as a Christian agency, does not judge or point fingers. Our question to our clients has always been "What has happened to you?" rather than "What have you done?" This is the beginning of developing the resiliency to offset ACES.

 Our Real Essentials/Healthy Relationships is a trauma-informed care approach to education and character building. For students with ACES (or their parents) our Real Essentials Program offers a path to resiliency -- we become a support network to our students.